My jean shopping commandments – how to find the perfect pair for you

Denim was previously my enemy. I could never find a pair of jeans that ‘fitted’ me or I felt fashionable in and I resented my body because I couldn’t fit into the jeans I wanted to.

I was young and disheartened, and was finding it difficult to find jeans that I felt comfortable in.

This was the time in fashion where skinny jeans were considered the only trendy denim to be wearing, but I just couldn’t squeeze myself into the Topshop skinny jeans I so desperately wanted to wear. It was a turning point for me, I realised if I wanted to wear jeans then I would need to broaden my horizons, to experiment with different shapes, styles and washes, and I would have to get over my teenage angst of shopping in ‘uncool’ shops.

Eventually, I started to learn what shapes suited me and which shops I could get them from, but during the period of me experimenting with different shops and styles I found myself developing a list of rules that became my Jean Shopping Commandments. These ‘Commandments’ are a mixture of satirical, serious and sensible advice that I found got me through my shopping sessions. So if these commandments can help anyone else to survive the trauma of jean shopping, then I will be eternally happy!

The Jean Shopping Commandments

The shopping process:

  • You will be kind to yourself – your body is the only one you have so don’t hate it for not fitting into that pair of jeans
  • You will not get upset – you cannot get upset over an item of clothing not fitting you, walk away, have a glass of wine and go shopping another day
  • You will think carefully before committing – If you can’t style the jeans with atleast three pairs of shoes, and five tops then don’t buy them. Jeans are all about versatility, they should be a staple of your wardrobe, so if they only work for one ‘look’ they aren’t worth your money
  • You will not jean shop if you are unhappy – you need to be objective about the fit, so shopping when unhappy will not lead to a fulfilling experience. It’s not worth it, go home and have some pizza instead. Leave the jean shopping to another day
  • You will listen to yourself – The only thing that matters is how you feel in the jeans, screw what anyone else thinks

Fitting guidelines:

  • You will not ‘jump’ into jeans – If you have to hold the belt loops of the jeans and jump to get them on then they do not fit you. To fit jeans correctly use the waistband to pull them up as you should do,, if you need the leverage of the belt loops then they are too small for you
  • You will try on different styles of jeans – you never know what shape will suit your figure best – if you aren’t already shopping with a specific style in mind then aim to take three different types in with you (this can vary between wash, rise and shape)
  • You will check your butt in the mirror – if you don’t like what you see don’t buy them, a good pair of jeans makes you ass look fantastic no matter the style
  • You will try on different shapes in the same shop – Even in the same shop the fit is different between a flared and a skinny jean so just because one style of jeans doesn’t fit you doesn’t mean other styles from the same shop won’t look amazing on you – I myself have to buy my skinny jeans from River Island, but my boyfriend jeans and flared jeans come from Lindex and my straight leg jeans are from Next
  • You will try on the same style of jeans in different shops – The shape of clothes from some shops will just not suit you. Don’t get disheartened, it’s to do with the body shape and measurements they create their styles on – if you aren’t their shape then don’t stress, you will be the perfect shape in another shop – and it doesn’t mean a certain style won’t fit you at all, you just need to find the right shop for you
  • You will not obsess over a number – Ignore the size on the label, go for what feels good on your body and what you feel sexy in – if you look good then they will be asking where the jeans are from not the size you are wearing – and remember that your size might vary across shop and style

The ‘don’ts’:

  • Don’t buy jeans you aren’t 100% sure on – if you do, you sentence them to a life spent in the back of your wardrobe, and no item of clothing deserves to live life like that – let someone else who really likes them buy them
  • Don’t be disappointed if the ‘trendy’ jeans don’t suit you – not everything suits everyone, continue shopping and don’t let it get you down
  • Don’t turn your nose up at certain shops because they aren’t cool enough – get off your high horse and give their jeans a try, they might be the perfect fit for you
  • Don’t go jean shopping with friends or family – Yes going shopping with your girls or your mum is great, but right now you don’t need any extra opinions about which wash or shape is best, jean shopping is hard, don’t make it worse by getting people’s opinions
  • Don’t be afraid to experiment with different washes – you won’t know what you like until you try it on

I hope these commandments can help other keen shoppers, but the main thing to remember is don’t hate your body if a pair of jeans doesn’t fit you. It is just an item of clothing, and even if it doesn’t feel like it there are millions of other options out there that you will look fabulous in, fashion is supposed to be fun, so don’t take it too seriously.

And hey if you can’t find any jeans, just wear a skirt 😉

Happy shopping!

M

Style of the day

So, I am new to this blogging thing, and basically I am not sure where to start. So I am starting with two things I know and love:

  1. Photography
  2. Fashion

Now, I don’t profess to be an expert on either, I am by no means a professional photographer, but I love to take photos. Whether it is with my phone, by SLR or my polaroid, I have a problem with constantly taking photos. I love to try and capture the beauty of things, and a photo really can say a thousand words in my opinion.

This is where my second love comes in. I am a trained fashion designer who has a very particular eye, and really does love a beautiful concept. I have worked within fashion since I was 18, and have had multiple jobs across the world, with my favourite job having been working as an Assistant Stylist in London. Putting together a look/concept is one of the most joyful things in the world to me, and if I get to wear my work, even better!

In a bid to combine these two loves, I am going to start my style of the day posts, on both this blog and my Instagram, which shows these looks I put together. For me, I love clothes, but when I see people on Instagram ‘modelling’ I find it is more about them than the outfit. Now I am not a skinny lady so not all clothes look good on me, and I am not a rich one either, so I can’t afford to buy lots of clothes, and I end up altering/upcycling/making some of my own things. As fashion is something I truly love, and believe should be available to everyone, I want to work with the magic of clothes without me being in the images. I am not the focus here, the clothes and the styling are.

So this photo shows my first style of the day post, which is displayed simply on a ladder in my self painted and designed bedroom.

When styling, I believe you should have a theme for your outfit, rather than just putting ‘nice’ things together, or going for what is ‘trendy’ at the time. My theme for tomorrow’s outfit is ‘grown up goth’. ‘Goth’ is a very interesting fashion style for me, because I think black on black clothing can be hard to pull off without looking too dark! So in a grown up version of ‘goth’, I have taken elements of the darkness associated with gothic style, but have added a liberal splash of colour to help balance out the outfit.

I have taken a lovely pair of slim fit grey jeans from Lindex, which have ripped detailing down the front, and am styling them with a black slogan t-shirt from Zara with a very gothic/satirical phrase ‘People Person’ inscribed on the front. This is a good basis for an outfit for me, jeans and a staple t-shirt, but I believe there has to be an element of fun and playfulness with any outfit. I recently purchased these fabulous pink earrings from Zara, and they became my inspiration for a pop of colour. They match wonderfully with my wide strap pink heel sandals from Next, and the beautiful watercolour flower print on this delicate kimono from H&M. I think pink adds a fun element to an otherwise entirely black ensemble without it looking too cheesy or over the top.

Personally I will style this will simple makeup, maybe lips with a slight pink tint to them, and my hair up in a messy ponytail so I can really show of those earrings!

Now I know this blog may not get any readers, and that’s okay, but if someone does read and feels inspired to try a new look then I will feel like I have given an element of fashion fun to someone else.

Looking forward to seeing what I will style tomorrow night for the next day!

Happy styling.

M.

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